It used to be called: Playing stupid. The buzzword “weaponized incompetence”, strategic incompetence, is now circulating in the feminist discourse of social media. What is meant are situations in a couple’s relationship in which a man, according to the insinuation, acts as if he doesn’t know how to wash the dishes properly or where the vacuum cleaner bags are. Targeted helplessness in order to shift unloved activities onto the partner. Now this behavior seems familiar to many people, the corresponding hashtag on Tiktok has been called almost 70 million times.